Today, I turn 26.
Do I look any different now from when I was 25? I don’t think so. In fact, I believe I may have reversed the ageing clock and might be getting younger by the day! Only last month, a friend of my father’s asked me which school I went to! I was too stumped to provide a response so I just pretended to ignore the question and slowly walked away as if in a Hollywood spy film.
Do I feel any different than when I was 25? Abso-fuckin-lutely. Keeping snide marriage remarks aside, it feels like I’ve grown up more in the past one year than I have in the past two-and-a-half decades! Reason? Amongst many other things, I decided to move out of my parents’ house, realised I was kicking ass at living independently (more on this later) and that I could balance work and life pretty darn well. That was until I had to shift within six months of renting a house, as a result of which I was on the verge of getting broke, and realised living alone is not all gold and roses.
Because of all the major changes and also despite of them, I had realisations and revelations about what matters the most in life and what sort of doesn’t. The list is pretty long. And that is what has inspired this blog post. With this I pledge to start anew and before I do I want to express my heartfelt gratitude for all the people and things in my life that have made it what it is today.
Here are 26 things, in no particular order, that I’m grateful for at 26:
- My guiding light – the supreme energy that has made it possible for me to be where I am today and has guided me through thick and thin.
- My super-loving, super emotional, darling of a mother who has supported me every step of the way. We’ve had our disagreements, but I now know I couldn’t have asked for a better mom.
- My best friend, who has made me realise that true friendships—like the ones we read about in books and watch in movies—do exist. She’s been my emotional pillar this year and I hope to be there for her always!
- The love of my life, who will literally do anything to make me smile, especially on the hard days. He’s taught me what it is like to truly care and love whole-heartedly and for that I will be eternally grateful.
- My annoying but super-caring brother, who despite fighting with me constantly is always there for me in times of need. I need to learn how to be as compassionate as you, especially towards those who are not related to me.
- My hot-headed, strong-willed dad who is always concerned about whether we’ll make it in life. We sort of have pa! It’s time you now focused on what you want to do after retirement 😀
- All the friends, new and old, who I’ve met and talked to in the past year. I’ve realised that there’s no replacing friends and I’m working at being more involved in their lives and having them be more involved in mine.
- All the people who hurt/disappointed me. It might sound like a cliché, but such people are a big part of helping me grow up and realise that you can’t depend on someone else to get shit done.
- Having the opportunity to follow my dreams. It most definitely is a privilege, one that I intend to make full use out of.
- Being able to live independently and support myself. Didn’t realise it was a big deal till I had to do all the adulting on my own.
- Having the freedom and ability to make my own decisions. My parents grew up in a society where women were not allowed to take decisions, even about their own lives. This still exists in some parts of the country and the world. I’m grateful that the choice of how I want to live my life rests with me.
- Having the ability to make a difference. Not many people are in a position to be able to help those in need or to bring about a change. And even those who are don’t always act. I hope to use my voice to be able to do that.
- Having access to internet. Think about it, I wouldn’t even be writing this if the world-wide-web didn’t exist. I’ve been saying this for a while and I’ll say it again—thank god for whoever brought about this revolution.
- Knowing how to cook. Reading about millennials who cannot even boil an egg, I’m thankful that mom got me cooking as early as 6-years-old. It’s a boon in this whole “living independently” situation.
- My health. I don’t work hard enough to give my body the love it deserves, but that is one of my resolutions this year.
- Being able to eat whatever I want. Kind of directly related to the health point, but I also want to mention that it is indeed a privilege to have access to clean, nutritious food.
- And since we’re on the subject of food, there is one that deserves special mention—pizza! I don’t know what I’d crave for if this cheesy delight didn’t exist. I thank heavens for pizza. I’ll also add chocolate to this point and stop there otherwise I’m afraid food will make up the remaining 26 points.
- Having access to clean water. On days when I or my roommate forget to switch on the motor, we get an insight into what it must feel like to live without water.
- Having common sense. At the expense of sounding like a snob, I want to say it is surprising how difficult it is to have people apply their brains in most situations.
- Having the opportunity to travel. It is one of the best things in life and those who can definitely must!
- Moments so funny that make me laugh till my stomach hurts, or till I’m literally rolling on the floor unable to get up.
- Bear hugs. I think hugs are just underrated. A good, all encompassing bear hug from your closest people can be just the drug you need to feel elated on a bad day. And even if the day is good, it is just a cherry on the cake.
- Having someone take care of me when I’m sick. I first realised the importance of this last year during a vacation abroad, when I fell ill and didn’t have my mom there to bring me soup or caress my forehead. It was a tearful realisation.
- My car. It’s small and has too many flaws but it has never once failed to make me reach my destination (don’t judge me for believing my car has a soul).
- This new year of life.
- You guys! I’ve just started out and have already received so much love and support from you people, it’s overwhelming. Only last week I was going through the comments on my previous blog posts and I was amazed at how much love and positivity there is in the world. Thanks you guys for sticking around! I pledge to post more often and regularly in return for all your time and affection.
This post got longer than I intended for it to be, but if you read through till the end, a big shoutout and thank you. That’s another thing I’m grateful for now 😉
Watch out for the next one!